December 2020/January 2021 Issue

FREE Page 26 December 2020/January 2021 EAST COAST EQUESTRIAN Print subscribers get FREE classifieds! Print subscribers get FREE non-commercial classified ads! Just email your non-commercial (events, horses/trailers/tack for sale, boarding/lessons/training etc.) classified, 35 words or less to steph@eastcoaste- questrian.net . Be sure to include your name and mailing address as it appears on your subscription label. (Not a print subscriber? Sign up online at eastcoastequestrian.net .) Classifieds can run in more than one issue but must be resubmitted each month. Deadline is the 12th of the month before publication. FARMS HORSES MISC. girlfriend and we’ve been dating for almost a year. She’s pretty, smart, has a great job—bottom line, she checks all the boxes. But the horses! She buys them the most expensive apples. She has a person who routinely goes to the barn and massages her horses. She rides several times a week and competes often. The competi- tions are amazing and I love shar- ing pictures of the horse shows on my social media pages. My old friends are totally jealous. This lady is independent, and doesn’t like to hear my questions about why she would spend so much money and time on these crea- tures. I don’t particularly enjoy going to the barn with her, and find her sessions with her horses pretty boring. We’re both athlet- ic—her as an equestrian and I do a lot of running and I play golf a few times a week. It would be wonderful if she’d consider play- ing golf with me. I think she’d be great at it! As the holiday season approaches, I’m wondering if I should raise the issues with her about how her horse hobby gets in the way of my taking the next step with her. She is beautiful, and I think we would be a perfect couple. During the holidays, I would love to talk to her about maybe moving in together. How do you think I should approach the topic of how she might focus more on us and less on her (no offense) smelly horses? -Looking for Love Dear Looking… Wow! I love the idea of peo- ple getting together—especially good-looking, smart, independent people with great jobs. Imagine the offspring! Your “potential” girlfriend sounds amazing! You? Not so much. Where to begin… what, exactly, attracted you to this beautiful woman? Her beauti- ful-ness? Her “independence”? Is that a code word for well off? Or was it how hot she looks when competing? Your social media friends are jealous, but are you just pimping pictures of this woman to cultivate jealousy and admiration for yourself? I feel weird having to explain basic relationship advice, but here goes: people who are interested in genuine, mutual, long-term rela- tionships don’t normally focus on how to persuade potential mates to ditch the things they care about and develop entirely new hobbies/ sports/interests. Instead they try to learn more about the passions of the people to whom they’re attracted. She loves horses. Have you asked her about what it is that she loves about them? Don’t say they’re smelly. They smell like horses, not Old Spice commer- cials. How long has she been involved with horses? How old are her horses and how long have they been with her? Then, as you and this potential girlfriend get to know each other, perhaps you might talk about your passions. Golf? Fitness? You find her love of horses boring and stinky. What does she think about golf? What I’m searching for in your question is a generous heart. You say that she “checks all the boxes.” Kind of like a new car, right? It’s a pretty cold and unfor- giving list. Exactly what do you do? And would you be thrilled to be described as “checking all the boxes,” especially since not one of those boxes was an attribute like kindness, compassion, generosity, a sense of humor, etc. You might be better served by taking the spirit of the holiday season and figuring out who you are and what you might bring to a relationship that—to be successful and mutually fulfill- ing—demands a level playing field. People are not objects for you to own and display. They’re com- plicated and often unpredictable. My advice to you is to get over yourself, learn that women are not objects, and that independence in a woman is a beautiful thing. Have a question for Mal? Email her at PAEquest@aol. com. Go ahead... Ask da Mare (Continued from page 21) Nameplates Never Go Out of Style Holiday Gift Guide Special Advertising Section of each section). There are a lot of pictures. The Nameplate section is largely complete. Nameplates cannot be ordered online. Be- cause we have so many choices, there’s no form available to check off all the boxes. So, please call us at 610-430-0123, or email us at The-Engraver@msn.com to place an order. If you find the perfect gift, please give us a call or send us an email. We’re usually in the office from 10 to 5 (Eastern Time) on weekdays, or leave us a message with your phone number, for the best time to call you. Don’t forget, you might need something special for yourself! (Continued from page 15) Horse Lay Ups: 20 minute drive to New Bolton Center/ University Of Pennsylvania Vet School. (No self care avail- able). Owner owned and run. Over 30 years experience. Two references requested. Rates upon request. 610-721-5902. Foaling Stalls: Limited space available for mares that want to foal in Pennsylvania. 20 minute drive to New Bolton Center/University Of Penn- sylvania Vet School. Over 30 years experience. Reasonable rates. 610-721-5902. TRAINING: Westfield Farm LLC, Tailored for horse and owner. ALL Breeds and disciplines. We will make your trail horse safe or a winning show horse. More info at Westfieldfarmllc.com or CALL 717-432-2828. Travel Possible. HORSES 6 Year Old TB Gelding: Very reasonably priced. 16 and 1 hands. Dark bay. Very quiet. Sound. Trail rides. Paper chase. Green in the ring. Lovely ground manners. Ships/clips. Good home only. 610-721-5902. Large Chestnut Colt: Full brother to Devon/Upperville Winner. Unregistered TB. PA Bred. Will win on the line. Very athletic. Good mover. 610-721-5902. Omega Horse Rescue located in Airville, PA has a variety of horses and ponies ready for their forever homes! Please vis- it our website to see pictures, videos and how you can help! www.omegahorserescue.com Better than right off the track! The PTHA's Turning for Home, Inc. always has OTTBs that are properly rehabbed, retrained and ready for their new careers. Find your next horse at www.turningforhome. org or call 215-808-7562. Herd Reduction, 20 head to choose from. Stallions, bred mares and young stock. Welsh Section Bs of mostly GlanNant breeding. Includes weanling colt to mature near 14.2H. lester@ckt.net or 620-857-4331 “Why Not Babe” 2019 PA bred filly by Weigelia and out of Shoe Babe, a winner of $189,000 and the dam of 3 foals who are all winners. Call 610-384-5540 or text 610-914-5317 for photos. Antique surrey with top; Meadowbrook cart with tool kit; Challenger eventing cart with upgrades; Large market wagon with seating for six in back. All in excellent condition. 717-533-3057. King Kutter Rotto Harrow - Like new, cost $600; yours $250. Make your arena look new again. Bird-In-Hand Eagle Carriage, cob size, Groom step., shafts . loaded. Excellent condition $,4,500. (856) 299-3616. CATS: Barn homes in Bucks, Chester, and Montgomery Counties, PA. are needed to give rescued strays a chance at life. Cats are neutered, microchipped, and vaccinated; delivered and acclimated. Fill out an application to adopt at StrayCatBlues.org or call 215-631-1851 TRAILERS Exiss 6 Horse slant aluminum gooseneck 2001. Stainless nose. Lighted, carpeted dress- ing room. Extra rear com- partment. Many saddle/bridle racks. Everything removable to enlarge stalls or fit carts. 7'6"ht. Extremely nice condition. $17,800. OBO 717-432-2828 2018 KINGSTON Classic Elite 2 Horse Trailer with Dressing Room. Used twice, stored indoors. Saddle racks, full divider, feed bags, pad- ded butt bars, large windows & LED lighting. Extra high & wide. $ 14,500. 814-881-9294. Remember...tell our advertisers you found them in East Coast Equestrian! The news East Coast horse owners need to know Stephanie Debbie Phyllis from all of us at East Coast Equestrian! Thank you to our readers and advertisers for another great year! Happy Holidays